Smartphones and The “Undoing” of Society

In the American Conservative today Rod Dreher shares a post from one of his readers. It is about how he or she views the connection children have to smart phones in a small town in Germany:

Smart Phones & The Invisible Cord

A reader who lives in a small town in Germany writes:

Children nowadays are connected to an invisible cord that is yanked once in a while. It is terrible to see how completely normal children change once they have access to smart phones. Not all of them but quite a few. The ones that don’t have any (like my son) are relentlessly bullied. I have been seriously thinking about sending my son to a catholic private school but it is to far away. I also don´t know whether it would help. As you write many Christians don´t understand the menace that smart phones pose and therefore don´t restrict the usage. Especially the less educated think having smart phones will help their kids navigate the future world. Sometimes I could cry so sad is all that.

Take a family I know. The father is a good mechanic who will always find a job.The mother is a simple sales woman. Their son will be none of that. He has a smart phone since he is 9 and completely glued to it. His thumb is probably able to do amazing swipe gestures but that is all he learns. Academically he is a disaster. The worst is that when he grows up he will not be able to do anything with his hands except swiping as he never does anything else. He will be totally useless in every sense of the world. What makes my blood boil is that there are thousands and thousands out there like that. And nobody telling people the truth.

What the parent states is not off the mark. Children who are not allowed to have their own phone or tablet at a very young age are seen as outsiders. Parents who don’t want to enable an this powerful attachment in children have to constantly fend off a subtle, nagging pressure from society around them too. Your kid is squirming and making noise at a restaurant? Why not sedate them with the glow of your phone, right? Counter-cultural parents would answer “because we have a much bigger goal for these kids than simply keeping them still and quiet while peace and comfort is being met for the adults”.

“Aw, cute! Look, Zander is becoming more indifferent to everything and every person around him!”

Coincidentally, it is also Rod Dreher who states in his book Crunchy Cons that too often our society is focused on what technology can do, but rarely contemplates what technology “un-does”. This is a great point. There are unintended consequences to everything. Of course, some downsides are obviously worth the benefit or can be mitigated through adjusting other habits. For instance, having automobiles and public transportation obviously helps people get around quickly. We are able to do more things in less time and more comfortably–this is a clear upside. However, this also means we get less natural exercise than humans did many generations ago. The benefit of cars is widely considered, however, to outweigh this side effect. Also, people are able to mitigate the effects by jogging or joining a gym. This is an obvious unintended consequence. There is no debating the physical change to our collective lifestyle from automobiles. Not all side effects are obvious, physical ones though. Some are mental, emotional, or spiritual.

Today we have smart phones which can accomplish an amazing array of tasks and have an endless amount of options to satisfy our craving for entertainment. With my iPhone, I can deposit checks, send messages, get news updates, see photos, listen to music, set my thermostat, lock my doors, and much more. But what do these devices undo? I think it’s more clear what these devices undo in children and teenagers than adults who were not raised on them (although some adults seem to have entirely adopted a lifestyle of digital device attachment).

Indeed the destructive content internet-enabled devices can deliver to the senses of a young child is problematic but even more devastating (as the person above goes on to state) is the effect of technology on the formation of the brain and social skills. That is, the immoderate use is an even larger risk than the possible content that one could be viewed on that very device. People are increasingly becoming detached not only from the people around them but of the natural world they live in. A good number of people are making the decision to stop living in ‘3D’ in order to experience the world artificially through a two-dimensional screen. When all children know is the screen in front of them, they set out, day-by-day (with the help of their parents), to circumvent their God-given talents which correlate with the world around them. It’s no wonder why, as we have technology that can do more and more, people can do less and less. When the main avenue (by far) for correspondence is text message and social media, children, in their formative most years, never learn how to properly speak to one another or socialize in a meaningful way. This is one of the reasons I find so funny the main argument against homeschooling children, that they won’t be properly socialized. Aside from the many examples of how well socialized most home-schooled children are, the idea that the mainstream school system full of kids who cannot socialize outside of a digital world (or even well or virtuously within the digital world) will be better for social integration is comical. The New York Times equates technology substituting for drug use among teens. CBS reports on how psychologists are connecting the addiction of smartphones and Snapchat (for teens) to the hormones the brain releases which make people anxious when they are not checking their devices. The articles coming out on the science of what is going on are endless.

Equally troubling and sad is that society is raising a generation who aren’t aware of the natural beauty (or human suffering) around them. When one is always looking down at a screen, they cannot look up to all that is around, let alone God. Children need to play outside. They need to touch worms and get on their hands and knees to push toys through the grass in their yard. They need to look up at birds scattering from a tree against the background of clouds in the sky and think about it before they even have the words to describe what they are seeing. They need to hear thunder rolling in and smell the rain as it fills the street. These experiences are a few of nearly infinite are extremely important. Not only are experiences like this what good childhood memories are made of (who has great memories of a game they played on an iPad) it makes them aware of the tangible world surrounding themselves. It helps them put themselves into the proper context of creation, illustrating to them both their priceless dignity and the fact that they are part of a world much larger than themselves. These children are more likely to appreciate the mountains and oceans on vacation.

Children with these experiences are more likely to grow up with a desire to use our natural resources responsibly, in a truly conservative manner. They are more likely to create beautiful things: art, architecture, literature, crafts and more. They are more likely to have a healthy attitude towards animals and where they fit in in the natural order. These children are more likely to grow up loving fresh food and the joy which accompanies cooking with their own hands, perhaps even raising or growing the food themselves. These young people are more likely to grow up knowing what they are able to accomplish with their hands (along with their own limitations) around the house when something needs to be fixed. Pretty much, these children will be more likely able to understand the big picture: what it means to live a good life.

Are you a parent who is dismayed by the state of the prevailing culture? If so, commit to nurturing a truly counter-cultural household. Revolt against how popular culture expects you to raise children. Don’t allow for digital devices until a certain age and then have rules on how these devices can and cannot be used. Expect more from your children in how they interact with other people and the world around them. Not only will true joy and beauty begin to flourish in your household and beyond, but the future of society depends on it. ☩

Update: There is a follow up post on The American Conservative about smartphone use contributing to drastic changes among the post-Millennial generation.


Pop Culture #FakeNews: Avoid Cancer with The Pill and Increase Life Quality by Postponing Kids

It’s no secret that mainstream popular culture has been administering an full court press of ideology in a (successful) effort to lead those with malleable opinions to assume contraception and waiting as long as possible to start a family are good things. Good Morning America reminded us of this today when the entire panel was excited to hear the breaking, “must hear” news that The Pill may slightly reduce some forms of cancer. At the end of the segment they of course mentioned that The Pill is also is known for increasing the odds of other types of cancer such as breast and cervical along with an increased risk of forming a blood clot. They didn’t mention the widespread medical knowledge of the mental health side effects such as depression.

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This is what every millennial couple waiting to have kids looks like.

Hours later the following story pops up online from Woman’s Day magazine:

New Study Reveals the Surprising Benefits of Having a Child Later in Life

Here’s some evidence to counter all that chatter about your “biological clock:” Children born to older mothers thrive better in life…

…women who had kids later than the average age of 31 were less likely to scold or physically discipline their kids. Overall, their more mature and less emotional approach to parenting created children that were better behaved, well-socialized, and emotionally healthier in their pre-teen years.

Why do older moms have healthier and more educated kids? The researchers point to an overall improvement in society over the years, with better access to healthcare and education in the Western world. So the longer you wait to have a baby, the higher the chances life will be better for your little tot…

…the benefits of waiting to have children are either equal to or maybe even outweigh the potential negative effects, like an increased risk for Down Syndromeand a potentially higher risk for diseases like diabetes, hypertension, and Alzheimer’s later in life. Of course it’s harder for moms to get pregnant at all as they age

What a stupid article. What poor reasoning. First off, of course parents, on average, will take a more mature approach to parenting when they are…more mature. Parents in their 20s, though, have been raising children for millennia with fine, even better, results than modern middle-aged parents. Maybe the problem is the current culture forming young people to take marriage and parenting with such frivolity. Also, the idea of waiting 10 more years to have a kid because society might be fractionally better (according only to calculated economic reasoning and microscopic statistical health differences) is hilarious. As if a 40-year old has a worse life is any noticeable way compared to a 30-year old–what an excuse for an anti-family mindset.

It’s amusing how they bury the downside of having children later in life at the bottom of the article, especially the fact that you’re less likely to have children later in life–a fact regularly covered up by the progressive forces of pop culture and a point Charles Krauthammer eloquently points out in his essay Missed Motherhood. Did Woman’s Day ever consider that some women might want their children to have siblings and this is much less likely when you have your first child in your late 30’s. Did they take into account that some women want to be active grandmothers one day and this opportunity is highly diminished by generations having children later and later. Do they take fun, joy, love, happiness, and general family culture into account when calculating the quality of the life of the children born to older parents vs younger parents? No. The same news sources which report on levels of happiness among countries (recently reported that America has fallen to 14th) seem to not take happiness into account when discussing their wise family planning techniques (read: family suppressing).

I have a feeling the married couple joyfully welcoming eight children into their home, even if they might not have as much disposable cash to spend on fun devices or trips, has a much richer and joyful family life than the spouses who purposely squeeze out one child after 40 after spending most of their relationship focusing on everything other than family. Our culture needs a radical restructuring of priorities. Enter: Catholic Renaissance 2.0™. ☩

How to Fulfill Your Prophetic, Priestly, and Kingly Duties of Baptism

Inspired by the recent feast day of Jesus’ baptism; Father Robert Barron’s respective homily; and past articles from The Catholic Gentleman on how fathers can be a prophetpriest, and a king; I decided to write the following blog post.

Members of families usually have tasks or duties expected of them. It might be a mother’s duty to make sure the children’s dressers are stacked with clean clothes. A father might be expected to be the weekend cook for the family or make sure the bills are always paid. A child might be in charge of completing the task of taking out the garbage every week. A grandmother might be expected to set the table on Thanksgiving. You get the idea. Well, there are duties assigned to members of your spiritual family too. When we are baptized, we are born into the body of Christ: Christianity. This is why we call other Christians our “brothers and sisters”. We are siblings under the Father. Like a biological family, we share our Father’s blood and take His name (CHRISTian). Every time we cross ourselves with holy water, we are reaffirming our membership of this Christian family from our baptism. But just what is the sign of the cross with holy water reminding us of?

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